6 WAYS TO CELEBRATE YOUR SHOULD BE WEDDING DAY
So you’ve had to postpone your big day
We are living in such uncertain times, it’s hard enough to make any plans, let alone organise a wedding. Postponing your wedding just feels like the final straw for 2020. This can all be disheartening and it’s ok to be sad about it. The excitement gets lost as the goal posts seem to keep being moved further and further away. Though it may seem like Covid 19 has taken the wind out of your sails, it’s important to remember that this is just a postponement. Your wedding day WILL come around and it WILL be as amazing as you every dreamed! Trust me.
Postponing your wedding is never something anyone wants to do, but when life gives you lemons you just have to make lemonade. There are plenty of ways to celebrate your original wedding date, and mark the occasion in a positive way. I have put together a short list of little creative ways you can make the day more special than you ever thought possible.
1. Get dressed up
First things first, get dressed up. Ok maybe second, pore yourself a drink first… then get dressed up. Let’s face it, it’s been a while since any of us got out of our sweat pants. I think its safe to say this occasion deserves your going outside clothes! So go get your glad rags on and celebrate.
2. Eat & Drink
Right, to the good stuff; food and drink. Remembering that delicious three-tier beauty you spent all that time choosing? Postponing your wedding doesn’t mean you need to wait until the official day to indulge your sweet tooth. You could get crafty and bake your own. Check out this blog by One Fab Day on making your own wedding cake. Or you can always order a small version from your original cake maker and get a nice little preview. Some things are so good you just have to do them twice.
Now; Drink. Are you planning to serve cocktails on your wedding day? Why wait? There are loads of easy fun cocktails for you to attempt. Wether it be for just you two or for some friends and family too. How about a signature cocktail? Get creative! Here are some cocktail ideas for you to try out for your at home happy hour 🙂
The only thing left to do is to toast each other. Make sure to take the time to toast teamwork, to your support network, to each other and the future you will have together! All the important things to remember while you make it through the replanning.
3. Have a virtual Social Gathering
With a cocktail in one hand, a slice of cake in the other, and the magic of social media you don’t have to celebrate alone (if you don’t want to). It could be over Zoom, House Party, or for the smaller get togethers even Facetime or WhatsApp work great. Maybe you send on the recipe for your signature cocktails so everyone can join in on your happy hour?
When restrictions lift a little, you might feel comfortable having a few close friends and family around to celebrate. If you aren’t however, these virtual get togethers are a great way to feel the love of the people closest to you without having to put yourself in a position you aren’t happy with. You can also combine the two; if you are having a small gathering but want to include the older or more vulnerable without putting them at risk. Then set up a call and include them in the festivities.
4. Get out an take some photos
Why not capture the day and the memories you make. Something I do a lot nowadays is mini shoots for couple’s ‘should be wedding day’. It’s a lovely way to make sure you have something to remember the day by. You can use your favourite shots for invitations or display them on your big day when it comes around.
Not everyone is comfortable in front of the camera, I know I’m not! This can also be a great excuse to get a practice run in before your big day and a real chance to get to know your photographer and how they work a little too.
The truth is there are no rules with this, you can really do whatever you want. If you guys want to get all glam you can; if you would rather be chilled at home with your dog or cat you can do that too. It’s really up to you. I’ve had couples who want to climb a mountain and others who want to stroll through town. The world is your oyster. All you have to do is check with your photographer and they will work something perfect out for you.
It doesn’t just have to be just you either. Maybe you want just to document the festivities at home or maybe you want both.
If you have any questions about these mini shoots let me know, I would be happy to chat through your plans with you. No question is too small! Here is a link to a Sharon and Eoin’s Wedding Postponement Shoot up on Killiney Hill. These two are proof that, just because you’re postponing your wedding doesn’t mean you have to postpone making memories.
5. Have a minimony
Looking to get legally married sooner rather than later? Even though your postponing your wedding you could still tie the knot on the original date. Many couples who are opting not to have a church wedding get legally married on a separate date anyway. So why not make it your original date? When the big day comes around it will still be the same as you planned. You will get to have a small intimate ceremony AND a bigger one with all your friends too. Best of both worlds.
6. Exchange pre wedding gifts or love letters
It’s important to take the time to reflect on what this day is about. Ok so you’re postponing your wedding, but still. This is a BIG day! You guys are getting married wether it was today, next month or next year, taking the time to tell your partner how you feel could be something special the two of you could share. Or maybe you write down something for each of you to open on your actual wedding day? Think of it like a practice for the vows.
Another great way to lift each others spirits is exchanging gifts. It doesn’t have to be anything big, just something special for your one and only.
One last thing…
Onwards and upwards. It’s ok to be sad or upset that the plans for your dream day have changed. But it’s also important to see all the good things that you have. Your wedding day will come and it will be more amazing than you ever imagined. Remember one day you will look back and postponing your wedding will be a distant memory, hopefully one filled with some good things too! These are tough times so make the most of the little things, get out there and enjoy your ‘should be wedding day’. You are lucky – everyone before now only got one wedding day… you get to have two 😉
